I have had copper-red hair my entire life. My best friend “Kayla” has known me for a decade and has seen me rock this hair through every phase of life.
When Kayla got engaged, she asked me to be her Maid of Honor. I spent $800 on the custom silk gown she selected, organized her bridal shower, and coordinated the bachelorette party.
The ‘Aesthetic’ Request
At our final dress fitting, Kayla took me into a private dressing room and handed me a gift box containing black permanent box dye and a salon appointment slip.
I stared at her in disbelief. I told her I would not chemically alter or damage my hair for a single day of photos. Kayla snapped and told me that if I couldn’t “sacrifice my vanity for her dream day,” I was demoted to a regular guest sitting in the back.
I took the $800 gown, listed it on Poshmark for $600 that afternoon, and mailed Kayla a note letting her know I would not be attending the wedding at all. Our mutual friends are split down the middle.
Consensus: Bridesmaids are cherished friends, not photogenic props. Demanding someone dye their natural hair for an Instagram palette is unhinged bridezilla behavior.
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